To follow on from yesterday’s post I wanted to dig a little deeper..
So it seems that women are more critical of how they look because they are judged more by society as a whole on their appearance. The standards applied to a woman seem to be far more rigid than that of men.
How many women disappear from TV shows because they have reached a certain age, where it is deemed that they are ‘too old’ and therefore a younger model has to be bought in.
Women are continually bombarded with images of the ‘ideal’ face and figure. The constant exposure to idealised images of female beauty on TV, magazines and billboards would have us ‘believe’ that exceptional good looks seem normal and anything short of perfection is abnormal and below standard.
Now as we well know the vast majority of these women have quite a lot of the ‘fake’ stuff going on!! Yet despite us knowing that the majority assume they have to ‘try’ to be the same so the cycle begins, of diets, hair colouring, hair removal, extensions, botox, implants, liposuction and on and on it goes.
Now I had an awakening some time ago. Some of you may remember Ally McBeal the TV show from the late 90s which starred Calista Flockhart, now I spent many years wondering and ‘trying’ to be that size….
Now here is the thing how is a woman who has always been curvy with a bust size of 36D since 13, and only 5’3 ever going to get to be that thin?? I would have had to have stopped eating, and I know I still would not have looked like that. Now in my ‘new’ enlightened self I watch Calista Flockhart in Brothers and Sisters and think wow she’s got no real shape and actually looks like a pubescent girl!!!
So I embrace my curves and shape and what’s more most men I have come across seem to rather like me and my curves. So to me one of the women who I now think is really gorgeous and desirable is Nigella Lawson – my partner said whilst watching her recently it is a bit like ‘food porn’ and do you know what I get that. She is all woman and she positively embraces all that is to be embraced about being a woman, and it seems lots of men would like to embrace her!!!!
So what am I saying here, that fundamentally we are all different, so why would we strive so hard to all look the same?
Now I want to be the very best version of me, so that means that yes I do take care of myself, I watch what I eat, I exercise and of course I want to look good in my clothes. I gave up ‘weighing’ myself ages ago, I know how I feel and I know how I look and if my clothes get a little tight I change my food and exercise to get back to being comfortable. Now there is a lot to be said about being comfortable….how many of those girls and women out there striving to look like the ‘fake’ woman actually feel comfortable in their own skin.
So ladies watch this space to change as I will continue with this theme and welcome your comments and feedback….tell me what you want and I’ll get writing for you.